I Ride The Dark Horse: October 2016

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Improving My World ..

Believe in yourself even no one else does .. "Some people succeed because they are destined to but most people succeed because they are determined to do so .." When Henry Ford said those so-true words, he wasn't talking about himself, even though he was the epitome of determination. He went bankrupt several times, but never lost sight of his goal. He believed in himself and in what he was doing. In the end, he was so right and he improved the world!

Don't ever let anyone tell you that you cannot accomplish your goals. Who says you are not any tougher, better, harder working, smarter, and more able than your competition. It does not matter if they say you can't do it. The only thing that matters is if you say it. If you believe in yourself, there is hardly anything you cannot accomplish.

Do you know about Soichiro Honda? Many of you have driven his cars, used his lawnmowers, and ridden his motorcycles. Honda was turned down by Toyota Motor Corporation for a job as an engineer, so he started making scooters and finally his own company. Honda Corporation says, "We see the world not as it is, but as it could be. We see the world through the eyes of a dreamer because we are a company founded by a dreamer and we are a company built on dreams." One of the greatest lessons I have learned is that if I want to triple my success ratio I might have to triple my failure rate.

Surround yourself with top quality people and truly listen to their input. Do not wait until it is too late to change. Start to take the true measure of your success now! What do you possess that you can offer people, to your community, and to your world?!

To simple ask the question, "How can I make a difference?" is to answer it .. Because the answer is to never let yourself stop asking the question ..

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Thursday, October 13, 2016

MAKING LEMONADE ..

I received a telephone call from on of my best friends and if I had received the call more than a year ago, I would have been very, very angry. When she described the discrepancies <again>, there was a moment's pause, and I just started laughing <hysterically> and to the point where I was shedding tears. I browsed through the pages of information my friend emailed me and written by my nemesis as well as the nemesis's colleagues and "husband", I laughed and laughed and laughed again. I even went to my dictionary and looked up the exact definition of 'nemesis ..

noun, plural nemeses

[nem-uh-seez]

1. something that a person cannot conquer, achieve, etc.:

2. an opponent or rival whom a person cannot best or overcome.

I felt so much better; my nemesis will never equal, conquer or achieve what I have in this life because she is not ME. She can try to mirror my accomplishments, where I live, whom I am married to, work where I work, take classes where I take classes, enjoy my family and friends because she can never be ME. Yes, she seems to be an opponent but a rival for what? There is no prize and if there, she can surely have it as I already have it so much better; paid for or not <as she has noted>, it is mine! Retribution; surely not! I have no time for it but the laughter in regards to it is delightful. And to be blamed for such trivial events that I did not involve myself in .. Again, the laughter. In the beautiful bubble of my world, it means nothing nor does it affect me any longer.

Looking back and in the continuing forward, there is no doubt that each one of my bullying experiences were windows of opportunity for learning and they were all pretty much the same. Unfortunately, it went like this; this certain person decided that I was a threat and pursued me. At times, she made me angry and at times, I responded to her taunting and teasing. Yep, so wrong! Since I have never have someone pursue me in this manner, it astonished me. For a bit I was on the receiving end but now, I do not back down. My nemesis has gone into hiding, unable to face me in person and unable to quit in her attacks. If this is the sum of her world, so be it. I am taking a stand in what I believe is to be fact. I do believe in trying to ignore her and continue on in my wonderful life; one that she does not have and maybe this is why I am pursued. I do not wish her any harm. O cannot give her love and compassion, emotional stability, security and comfort and just life in general. These have to be earned by her and her alone.

My life is a book with chapters and with each chapter I insert scenarios and situations constructed to help me learn a particular lesson or growth experience. Why not look for these windows of opportunity? Each time we learn a lesson or complete an experience on our "to do" list for our lifetime, we have more time to work on the other items on our learning list. The more we accomplish, the more rapidly we mature spiritually. There is so much that I want to accomplish before I finish this life. To make sure that we learn a particular lesson that we are intent on learning, we incorporate many possible windows of opportunity into our lives so that if we miss one, we will have another chance to acquire the learning or the experience that we need or want for physical, emotional and spiritual growth. Fighting, feuding, and allowing my nemesis to make me angry keeps in in one chapter and I want to move forward into the next one, finish the book, make money on my books to further my ambitions. I think that sounds like a phenomenal idea! So the next chapter is all about me ..

Because I ride the dark horse ..

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Tuesday, October 11, 2016

I Love Walking Through The Right Door of Happiness ..

Have you noticed how when one door of happiness closes, another opens! Unfortunately, we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us with greater opportunity and rich with blessings!

Some months ago, I had this experience. What I was perceiving as happiness was really danger and darkness. Trusts were betrayed and hearts were broken. I could not understand why the door had closed and it had closed with a slam! After stepping back and putting all into perspective, I had found that my guardian angels had helped me to slam the door, brick it up, and save me from even more disappointment and pain, despair and regret. I was watched over and guarded by my gracious husband, phenomenal children, family, friends and the walk through that particular door did not happen. As soon as this door closed .. another opened .. and then another .. and two more doors .. and now my life is becoming abundant and full. As I look across our landscape at what is being built and accomplished, I smile. Making good and honest decisions, treating others with kindness, taking care of my family, and choosing the rights doors to walk through is happiness and prosperity.

Do not continue to stare at the doors in your life that are closed because when you do, you will miss the many open doors that can take you to bigger and better places; places that you never imagined you would go in your wildest dreams as I have discovered and now living. In our lives, one big principle that we must learn to know and live by is that when one door of happiness closes .. another will open and we have to be willing and brave to go through it. We have to be willing to not only endure, but we have to keep our eyes open and our minds sharp so that we may go to higher places, stay away from destructive people and continue to learn, grow and enrich our lives. Life is full of ups and downs; its victories and what presently may seem like defeat. Keep your head up not only to look as though you have strength and perseverance .. but so you may see the blessings ahead of you as I have ..

Because I ride the dark horse ..

Monday, October 3, 2016

ADULT RESPONSIBILITY or ADULT BULLY

An Adult Bully

tries to avoid responsibility

for their own bad behavior

by blaming the target

for causing it ..

The most important thing to remember about dealing with cyberbullying is to never, ever respond to the bully. I know that it is difficult to do. I made the mistake of asking, begging, and pleading with my bully to stop the harassment, and it has led to a site(s) dedicated to defaming and harassing me, complete with my full name, my husband's full name, my children's name, taunting about the death of my son, my family's information, and information that is not even close to being true. Remember that bullies are often lacking something crucial in their lives and they seek pain in others, so do not fill this void for them by giving them a reaction. Your reaction is exactly what they are seeking. Instead, document everything, and seek the proper authorities (up to and including your local FBI bureau). Trust me, I know it is very, very difficult not to react when you see yourself and the people you love being attacked.

The bully will often tell their prey things such as "you deserve this" and "you need help" in order to convince you that you are in fact the bad person. Just remember who it is you are dealing with and report everything to the proper authorities so the real "bad person" can be dealt with legally. This has taken many years to figure out for us. Let those who have the expertise in this horrid situation take care of what needs to be taken care of.