Do Mean Girls Grow Up to be Mean Women ..

It would seem that teenage cruelty would end on the playground because there would not be room for nasty behavior in our adult world.  But then we find out that mean girls just become mean women.  They grow up, maybe get jobs, have children, and then torture you on social media, in emails, on the telephone, or call your employers!  I have found that women tend to operate in a more subtle, insidious, and damaging way than men do.  They are catty and bitter.

We have been working with an investigative reporter that we contacted sometime ago.  He has been able to pull sad information about the life and ways of our own adult woman bully.  Mean women continue to bully for the reasons they bullied when they were younger; an attempt to mask the pain of having been bullied themselves and to regain some sort of control; to diminish the threat of a prettier, smarter, more successful and smarter rival.  Of course there are those who try to show their perceived sexual power over other women.  Usually because this is the only way they can get and attempt to keep a man in their lives.  Badmouthing and spreading rumors, trying to turn family members, friends, colleagues, spouse, against you, constant nasty digs to wear you down, sarcasm, exaggeration, intimidation are some of the ways that an adult bully will try to wear you down and the effort becomes strong when the attempt is to keep you down and perhaps dead.  Oh wait, that is what our bully did; pretend to have committed suicide to incite some sort of emotional reaction.  

Mean women will usually target other women based on their own insecurities.  Usually the victim will be independent, popular, successful, and in some way, a threat to the aggressor.  Usually they will not target a victim unless they think they can get away with it.  The mean behavior takes on prolonged, covert nastiness.  In our case, over 6 years of messiness with a mean woman. These past two years, we filed a civil suit against the mean woman and won including monetary damages.  Of course, her mind doesn’t work in normal mode, and the bullying continues.  Now we are working towards open expression of her mean behavior and in its course, other victims have contacted us as well as professional individuals studying this horrid course of behavior. 

We know that our bully works as a coward; attempting to recruit others who live the same sad existence as she does.  She cannot be independent, cannot maintain long-term employment, and is fixated on our lives and those around us.  She makes up stories and exaggerates facts, twisting them to appear to be at her advantage and then becomes enraged when situations will not work her way.  We have come to live with this person constantly prodding and poking, copying and pasting, all aspects of our lives. Her threats no longer provoke us but are the basis of laughter and movement forward.  It has taken a great deal of time to not let her cause havoc in our lives and with each passing day, she becomes less and less.  Perhaps this has happened in her own life; no longer taken seriously and no longer wanted.  We know why her fixation and her jealousies.  We also know that we are in a better place because ..

 

I ride the dark horse ..

 

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